The way I see it, everyone in our lives is connected to us. It is almost as if we are all standing in a giant circle, the Circle of Life...
Obviously not everyone in the circle is connected to each other, but they are all connected to us. We are all the centres of our own circle. You could almost imagine that everyone is standing in an actual gigantic circle, hand in hand. As time goes on the circle can grow as people come into our lives and then shrink back as people leave our lives. That's the natural way of life; friends, family, neighbours, colleagues they all come into our lives, and then sometimes they slowly and naturally fade out again, and the circle can accomodate that.
But when someone leaves in a horrendous way before we're ready for it to happen, like if someone dies, or leaves in another way and breaks our hearts, it's as if they've been ripped out of the circle and they leave behind a gaping hole that can never again be filled. True, as time goes on we move on and we heal and accept, but the hole will always stay there forever. When the next person comes along they get their own space in the circle and the old hole stays empty. If you are picturing an actual circle of people hand in hand, you could imagine that with time and healing they reconnect, maybe throw a rope in between them to stay together, but the hole is still there.
My point in all this, is you can never replace someone who's gone like that. You can move in with your life and you should, we all should it's what's healthy and normal, but those we've lost can never be replaced.
So love the ones in your circle. Appreciate everyone in it and treat each day with rich care and love because you never know what can happen.
Life=Love Love your family, love your friends, love yourself
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Darcy - what a lovely, profound post. I feel exactly the same way about holes being left behind by people we love and lose. I like your imagery of humankind holding hands in one big collective circle. I have always felt that that is what God - or the Creator- was -- the collective - ALL of us being one unit. It's as if we were all part of a single crystal ball that got smashed into infinite bits ... all of the bits make up a single whole; we all belong to the same whole and are interconnected. I think that is why we (humankind) are all brothers and sisters. Whe one of us hurts -- we all hurt.
ReplyDeleteI enjoy your writing and I can see that you are a real thinker. Keep sharing and I will keep reading ... we are afterall, family!